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First time nerves or stage fright is not uncommon in swinging
and it's not just a problem for men, it can easily affect
women as well, it's just not so obvious when it does.
You
can imagine the tyupical scenario where a man has been
imagining playing with a new partner for ages, perhaps
even for months, and suddenly the situation is upon them
and they find they can't...
The
important thing to remember if you find yourself in this
situation is that it is natural and it is not anyone's
fault.
What
causes "stage fright" in swinging?
It
is normally becuse we are not comfortable with out environment
for some reason. In a typical dating scenario sex doesn't
normally happen until you have had chance to get to know
each other and become more comfortable with each other
to a degree, however long this takes. And when you start
swinging it is normally when you have been with your partner
for some time and grown to know them.
This
is not the situation in swinging, you will often find
yourself with someone who you don't really know very well,
if at all, which can feel intimidating and cause nervousness
for many people. Not everyone feels comfortable having
sex with a relative stranger, someone that you may have
only met for an hour or so before..
What
can you do?
The
solution is the same as always, communicate.
Take a time out and get to know the person a bit better
and you will normally find that the nerves start to fade
away fairly rapidly and you'll be ready to continue where
you left off, and becuase you'vre spent the extra time
getting to know the person a bit better the situation
will often end up being even more enjoyable than you were
expecting.
You
should also remember that it is fgairly likely that the
person/people you are with have also had the same feelings
of nervousness at some time, so they will understand you.
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