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Are
Sexually Transmitted Diseases a problem?
N.B. - We have added a page with more details of STD's]
Obviously
disease is major concern to everyone invloved in swinging,
which by itself tends to help reduce the risk. Swingers
tend to have a higher awareness and knowledge of STD's
than many people, and therefore take appropriate steps
to reduce the risks at all times.
We
must however, remember that even a condom isn't a 100%
guarantee against many STD's. Thus it is important to
to know your partners as far as possible. Do not be afraid
of asking for recent test results if you feel the need,
and take the time to have a test regularly yourself, for
your own peace of mind as much as for others.
You
should also tell potential partners if you have previously
had a sexually transmitted disease before engaging in
ANY sexual activities, as many diseases can stay with
you for life, even though there are no obvious symptoms.
Is
it normal to be jealous as a first time swinger?
Of course. In fact you will probably find that although
the feelings of jealousy fade, it never actually goes
away. Jealousy is a natural (although unpleasant) human
empotion. See our Jealousy
in Swinging Page for more Info.
How
can I persuade my partner to try swinging?
This question is often asked by prospective swingers and
the answer is not the one that most people are looking
for.
You
should not try and persuade or "convince" your
partner in to swinging, as this is likely to make them
feel that they are being made to do it against their will,
just because you want to, which will normally lead to
resentment.
Your
partner should be genuinely interested in trying swinging
for it to work. The best approach is normally to bring
up the idea as light topic for genreal discussion to judge
your partners reaction and let them get used to the idea
and think about it.
Before
you do so though it is worth taking the time to examine
your own reasons for wanting to try swining and make sure
it is for the right reasons. Swinging should not be used
as a way of fixing a relationship that is not working
by adding some new excitment. Swinging really requires
you and your partner to already have a healthy and open
relationship.
If you want to try swinging simply so that you can have
more sex, then the swinging life style is unlikely toe
provide you the solution you are expecting or seeking.
Swinging
is more about helping your partner and yourself discover
and experiment with interesting new sexual situations
and fantasies withint a safe and fun enviroment. With
this in mind, if you both you and your partner already
discuss your sex life openly (if not, why not?), then
you will probably find that you don't need to "persuade"
your partner to try swingin, but you simply need to raise
the idea and discuss it.
You
will also find that if you have spent time thinking about
it and examinging your own reasons for being interested
then you will be albe to answer your partners questions
about swining more easily and honestly.
Discussing
your (and your partners) fantasies and how swinging may
help to bring those fantasies to life can also be a useful
exercise, and a good thing to do whether you end up trying
swinging or not.
What
do all the strange terms used by swingers mean?
W've added a swingers terminology page to help guide you
through all sorts of general sexual and swinger
terminology.
What
"type" of people enjoy swinging?
All sorts. As with any interest the people involved come
from all sorts of backgrounds, attitudes, races, careers,
etc. There is no "typical" swinger profile.
The
most common attribute or characteristic is probably an
interest in sexual fantasies and a higher degree of openness
and willingness to try something new and different. This
normally comes from being more confidant aobut themselves
and being comforatble with "who they are". Swingers
also tend to have a higher level of communication
with their partners than the "norm".
Why
is it so hard to find a single female swinger?
As with so many thing in life, the simple rules of supply
and demand apply. There just aren't that many single females
who enjoy the lifestyle. The majority of women who enjoy
swinging are half of a couple and many couples don't like
to split up to play.
There
is also the fact that single females, especially singl
"bi" women, are the most sought after swingers.
There are always more than enough single males to meet
demand, but unfortunatly most single females either aren't
aware of the swinging scene or simply aren't interested.
What
is soft-swinging?
Soft-swinging is swinging without the sexual intercourse,
almost like a soft-core "try before you buy"
version of swinging.
There
are many swingers who enjoy the social, "flirting"
interaction and fore play of swinging, but wish to keep
the act of full sexual intercourse between themselves
and their partner.
This
is sometimes to ensure that there is no risk of STD's,
and sometimes simply because they wish to reserve the
act of love making for their partner.
There
are also some swingers who are only interested in watching
or being watched, this voyeurism is a form of soft-swinging.
So
are there any single female swingers?
There are single female swingers, but they are so scarce
that they can often be jealously horded by the swingers
that already know them and will often have a waiting list
of potential partners..
The
solution is often to think laterally and look at other
possible solutions. For example if you are looking for
a single lady to "interact" mainly with the
female half of your partnership it might be easier to
find a couple with a bi-female and a male partner who
is happy to watch the action. Obviously this may not be
a long term solution, but can help.
If
on the other hand you are looking for a lady to make up
a threesome, then you are likely to need some patience
and perseverance. The best way is often for the female
half of you rparntership to discuss the problem with other
ladies she knows who may be interested in trying out the
swinging scene, but as always pressure should not be appied
in any way.
Is
swinging only for couples?
Swinging is predominantly a lifestyle enjoyed by couples
who wish to act out their sexual fantasies. As those fantasies
often revolve around a sexual scenario invloving a third
person, it is common for a swinging couple to be looking
for a single person to take part in their fantasies.
As
a single person interested in swinging it is important
to remember that being involved with a couple is a privilege
not a right, and therefore the opportunity should be nurtured
and the situation treated with respect if you want it
to continue. Like most things in life, having a good reputation
can go a long way to furthering your desires and goals.
If you are single and simply looking for a partner for
sex then this is not actually what swinging is about.
If you are married and looking for the opportunity to
have sex outside your relationship, this is also not swinging.
More
FAQ's soon..
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